“You’re a disobedient wife.” On July 18 we will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary and this is what I've heard from my husband since our marriage journey began. What he means by that is, I just don’t listen. Now, I beg to differ. I listen, but I think I have enough knowledge about some things to make sound decisions.
Thankfully, we don’t have as many disagreements as we did in our earlier years. Boy, he could really push my buttons. Or shall I say, I allowed my buttons to be pushed. I remember, I don’t know if he does, that once I actually threw a breakfast plate flying into the kitchen from the living room because I was so heated. (There was still food on it!)
That was years ago. Years! I have learned to control my temper. My children don’t see me lose it often. I’m very patient, now. It’s easier and it saves plates.
In any event, we recently needed new blinds. I didn’t want to spend too much on this item. My husband explained, “You’re gonna keep buying cheap, and gonna continue to get cheap. They ain’t gonna last long.”
“But they’re so much,” I whined. After a few minutes of going back and forth, I said, “You’re right, I keep buying cheap and they keep breaking. I want something nice.”
That wasn’t good enough, however. He said, “Let’s go with the darker color — like wood.” Oh boy. “Honey, I don’t think that is going to look right. I don’t know.”
I guess on this day, I was feeling a little worn out, or perhaps, I’m maturing. I agreed, “Let’s get the darker color.”
He ordered them, they arrived and after several prompting conversations, he installed the blinds. He called me at work to let me know they were up. It’s sad, but all day long, I couldn’t wait to get home to see them. It really doesn’t take much to make me happy. Really.
I pulled up. From the outside, they looked good. From the inside, they looked great! I was tickled pink. Not only did we spend a little more, I was brave and accepted another color. I should listen to my husband more often.
We’re opposites no doubt. We learned from the True Colors Seminar, that his personality color is orange, and mine is green/gold. The color blue, which reflects love and romance is where our numbers match. Thank God for that! Given my husband’s outgoing and adventurous character, he does not have a problem thinking outside the box and taking risks. I’m the safe one. I need a plan and a referral before I make a decision.
He has always been that way. I remember when we dated, we spent many Friday nights at the Sunrise Movie Theater in Queens. After a long week, we were so tired, but we loved the movies and being together. Sometimes, with over twelve movies showing, there wasn’t “anything” playing; meaning, no blockbuster or largely advertised movie. I’d stand there looking at the marquee, saying, “There’s nothing good.” Him, he’d looked at the displayed pictures and pick one. I didn’t want to see any of those movies. He would say, “Come on, give it a try.”
I have to say, I enjoyed every movie; we gave a try. Well, all except RoboCop 2. Sorry. I just couldn’t.
After 23 years, I’ve learned sometimes, you’ve just got to give it a try and trust your mate. After all, they're just blinds!
My husband picked the blinds and made a very good choice. I think I’m going to let him choose the new kitchen floor!
And for the record, I’m not disobedient. I’m a thinker! What would my husband say about that? “You think too much.” He’s probably right.
In what situations have you decided to just go with it and take a risk?
Until we meet again,
Brook Lynn
Brook Lynn Dorcent
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